How to Make Friends in Your 20’s

I have such a fun post for y’all today!

Remember Jess? You know, my uber cool friend who somehow still likes me despite my homebody grandma personality? She also wrote here before about Treating Your Self, which if you’re not doing already you need to start Immediately!

Also to answer the wedding questions, no we don’t have a date (but possibly our venue so it’s tbd very soon, eek!) also no I haven’t looked at dresses or caterers or wedding favors or anything else you want to ask me about. Wedding planning is awesome and fun but choosing is hard. First world problems yo….

Anyway, without further ado, take it away Jess!

How to make friends in 20s

Hey Everyone!
It’s been a while since I have written for Kelsey, and to be honest, she asked me to do this in August but I’m such a procrastinator that I didn’t get it done…hence the reason I will never be a real blogger. But anyways, since you’ve last heard from me (a year ago) I have gone from traveling job that had me hopping place to place, to permanent job at an amazing hospital in Seattle, WA. I could not be happier with my decision to land in this city, even with it being so far away from my New England home. Which is what brings us to today’s topic: tips for making new friends in your 20s and beyond.  This can be a hard thing to do, but it is possible, and hopefully this will help!

Disclaimer: I am an extrovert, and kind of pride myself on bringing introverts out of their shells when I can. So if you are an extrovert, these will be tips on how to work it, and for all you introverts, hopefully this will help you feel more comfortable out of your shell.

Focus on your interests

By the time you are 24, most people know what things they are interested in whether it be fitness, reading, outdoor adventures, board games, computer games, dancing, and general debauchery. You at least have an idea of what makes you happy and like to do. And if you like it, I can guarantee that there is someone else out there who likes those things too.  So do your research online, talk about the things you like to do with coworkers, if you see someone doing something you like, go talk to them (if they give you a weird look, who cares, you are just being friendly) Also, I highly recommend the website meetup.com for groups that get together to do said interests.

Say yes

This is my number one go to rule. It’s the most proven (personally at least) way to meet cool people and form amazing friendships. If you get an invitation that sounds interesting, just say yes. Whether it be an invite to a party full of people you may not know, out to a drink with someone you’ve only had a few conversations with before, or for a walk on a nice day (or in the rain too!) just say yes.
Simple right? ( the answer is YES!)

Be yourself

How do you expect to make authentic friendships if you aren’t being your authentic self? This is also a simple one.

Get out there!

Go! Out of your house! Grab someone and go somewhere, or go by yourself. Sit at the bar, eavesdrop and butt into interesting conversations (you know you are listening anyways). Go for a walk or run and stop to pet someone’s dog, social interaction is important. Even if these random encounters don’t go anywhere, they will get you more comfortable with talking to people, I’m looking at you introverts! Even if it’s out of your comfort zone, set a goal for even 1 time a week to get out of the house and do something social.

Use Connections

A friend of a friend could be your next BFF and you just don’t even know it yet. If there’s someone who you think you would hit it off with, don’t be afraid to use you connections, personal or digital, to reach out. I mean come on, I know you are Facebook and Instagram stalking them anyways.

Routine

Did you make a new friend that you want to make sure sticks around? Make dates, see each other, plan things, and then use each other to make even more awesome friends!

Give Zero Craps

Not to be rude here, which I am also not saying you should be, but seriously, the less you stress about what you are doing, or what you look like or are perceived as to other people, the easier it will be to complete any of the other steps. Know that you as you are right now, is an Awesome person, and go share that with the world. If you meet someone and they don’t see it, then it’s their loss.

So those are the general rules, I have been using these a lot recently, and have formed an amazing variety and strong groups of friends in Seattle, in just 7 months. So take the plunge, get yourself out there, and surround yourself with people as amazing as you!

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The Survival Guide to No Cell Service

Happy MLK Day!

I’m actually not sure if today is the kind of holiday you wish people well or if I should have started this post out with a somber hello of respect….or possibly not posted today at all….Not quite sure what the etiquette is on that so we’re pushin on like it’s a normal (but still very respected) Monday.

I would say I got plenty of sympathy messages about my past week living with no cell service, but I had no cell service to receive said messages so I’m sure they just got lost in the atmosphere or however cellphones work b/c I know everyone was extremely worried about me. The most frustrating part was I wasn’t even in the middle of nowhere. Bowling freakin Green, Kentucky has a University for crying out loud! And a Wal-Mart! While institutions of higher education may set up shop in the backcountry, Wal-Marts do not.

I’ve been told that Kentucky is AT&T country but that’s dumb b/c I know Verizon has a more filled in U.S. map with 5x more coverage so what do they know. “They” apparently know that KY actually IS AT&T country and Verizon is a big fat red dot liar!

No Service Survival Guide

Before we get going can we just acknowledge that my lock screen contains the face of an angel? I didn’t mind checking my phone for service every 15 seconds just to see those dimples…….

Since I am the only survivor of the terrible No Cell Service Crisis of 2015 I’ve written a little guide, since that’s what survivors of things do….write books…. So the next time you find yourself with no cell service for three days in the modern world (not by choice of course) you can refer to my quick guide. Actually no cell service means no data usage so you should probably print this off for the most certain and imminent occasion that this will happen to you….

1. Panic.

This is most certainly Armageddon and you weren’t taken by the Rapture you naughty thing you and the Zombies are coming for you.

2. Run.

This step is only if you see a Zombie. If no Zombies are in sight yet then you’re still safe at the moment and can continue to #3.

3. Commence Denial.

This is a very handy emotional blanket in the event of seeing the number on the scale, no one liking your instagram photos, and being single in your 20’s . Or in this case having on cell service. It’s 2015 Kentucky, get your head out of the Antebellum Age and get some more cell towers in your “major” cities. (*Note: Bowling Green is actually only the third largest city in KY (true fact) but considering the horses out number all residents of the state anyway this isn’t saying much) (**Second Note: I made up that last stat)

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4. Receive a Sore Thumb.

From checking your phone so often of course. Seriously I think I sprained it from clicking the home button to light up the screen so often! This might be the Universe’s way of telling to start lifting again, but gosh darn it cardio is just way more fun! (I realize most people do Not find cardio all that fun but I find it much more engaging then picking things up and putting them back down. It’s seems rather counter-intuitive to me, call me crazy)

5. Resign to Your Misfortune.

You my friend must have really offended the Big Guy upstairs because I’m pretty sure that’s how cell service works. On the off-chance that you still have internet privileges be sure to send an email letting your Mother know you’re ok. She’s probably the only one who’s going to notice your fall from the face of the planet anyway so it’s just the polite thing to do. If you have no internet either then settle on in for the long haul, someone will come looking for you after you’ve been missing for 24-hrs or you start to smell, but that last one may be for a dead body….I’m getting my CSI episodes mixed up….

Obviously I jest, not having cell phone service for three days, while frustrating and inconvenient, isn’t the worst thing that could ever happen. It could have been Four! Gasp!

Has anything like this even happened to you?

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How to Get a Seat on the Train

Happy Fourth Lovelies! 😀

I’m not gonna talk too much about the Holiday b/c I’m leavin all my festivities for the Secret Blogger Club link-up on Monday and I hope you’ll all join me. (ps. if you want a reminder just leave me your email and I’ll add you to the list. I won’t spam you though don’t worry. You’ll literally get one email a month about the link-up…scout’s honor)

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I had an interesting thing happen to me yesterday….I didn’t get a seat on the train. Chalk it up to the Holiday weekend and everyone making a mass exodus out of the city I guess, b/c it was standing room only! Not gonna lie either, my Southern naiveness made me think I’d get a seat no matter how crowded the train was. I mean com’on, I’m a girl. These things tend to just work out for me…..Wrong…..

Bostonians are not the type to discriminate based on gender, so it was every man (or woman) for themselves. With y’alls help I’ve learned many things about the train, but nothing prepared me for this and seein as how I had an hour ride ahead of me, quite a few strategies to nab a seat went through my head….Feel free to steal them, though success rate not guaranteed…

>>1. Use your feminine wiles. God made me a sexy female (heavy sarcasm on the sexy part) and since it’s rude not to use gifts you receive, it’s usually my go-to in times of duress. Unfortunately Bostonians either seem to be immune to this tactic or I’ve severely underestimated my damsel abilities….or I’m just really ugly (I kid).

>>2. Attempt the “Woah what a bump I’m so sorry I fell in your lap” move. I figure if you do this enough times they’ll either get so upset they punch you in the face or give you their seat for your clumsy, wobbly legs to rest. I’m gonna make an educated guess and say you’d be more likely to get the first reaction, so best move on to tactic #3 Cowboy.

>>3. Punch someone else in the face. This one will probably result in you getting kicked off the train entirely, but if it actually works ain’t no one gonna mess with you again Crazy. Thanks to your (probably imagined) boxer prowess, you would successfully obtain a seat for the entire ride. (I don’t recommend this one, just fyi)

>>4. Cry. Again, this could go one of two ways. Either people think you’re crazy/weird and avoid eye-contact extra hard OR you get a seat out of sympathy….These city ppl are pretty used to crazy/weird though, so again, results not guaranteed.

>>5. Finally, ask. It might seem counter-intuitive b/c everything about public transportation screams to keep to yourself and avoid human interaction at all costs, but sometimes being direct really throws ppl off. I actually used Strategy 5 yesterday, not for myself, but for the lady behind me who looked about ready to collapse.

DARN-IT! I just realized she probably used tactic #6: Look pathetic and collapse!! These city ppl are tricksy…..

How would you get a seat on a full train?

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City Girls’ Survival Guide to Boston: The 5 People you Meet at a Laundromat

I’ll be the first to admit that I’m a complete novice when it comes to city livin. Before I moved to Boston I had no idea trains for ppl even existed. (And no Georgia isn’t under a rock, this is where I claim Blonde)

Anyway, I’m back in the city this summer and as always it’s a big adjustment for me and I’m constantly learning new things…aka just how sheltered suburban livin can make a person. So here’s another installment of The City Girls’ Survival Guide to Boston. You can catch the first edition about riding the train here.

Laundromat people

I’m sure if you’re a big spender you’ll have your own washer and dryer, but for this broke chick I visit the laundromat down the block for my cleanin needs. Now before I get started you need to understand that I am in no way makin fun of laundromats or those who frequent them (after all I’m one of those ppl)…k we good?

>>The Regular. This will be the person/people that seem to be there every time you go. It doesn’t matter if you vary your laundry days and times, they will be there…Do they live nearby? Have a cot in the back? You’ll never know….The upside? You quickly get to head-nod of recognition level and feel as though maybe, just maybe you’ve got a friend 🙂

>>The Old Men. Who knew men were capable of doin their own laundry? Then again I’ve never seen these guys actually DO anything while there. They’re usually taking up the few chairs available, drinking coffee and talking to other old men. Every once and a while I see them move to talk to the worker on duty but that’s about it….curious behavior…..

>>The Multiple Dryer Person. Every. Single. Time….I understand the concept of things drying faster the less items are in a dryer, but seriously people. These are industrial size dryers, I think they can handle more then one garment at a time, please and thank you….

>>The Terribly Misbehaved Children. Seriously I’ve never been to the laundromat without 3-7 rugrats running around causing havoc. I’ve literally been hit up for money for the vending machines from these little devils. Not to mention been caught in the middle of their cart races or spilled on by their wildly handled bottles of juice….Not commenting on anyone’s parenting though, some kids are just strong-willed yea? (that’s the right word right?)

And finally…

>>The Worker. This person is most likely wearing some sort of hideous frock and a perpetual frown. The look of annoyance isn’t b/c they’re mean or angry, oh no. It’d b/c their job is to do Other ppl’s laundry. I’ve seen some weird stuff in my bi-weekly pilgrimage so I can only imagine what they’ve seen. So they will help you if you ask, but might I suggest not asking? They’ll answer your question and then forever assume you’re a half-wit that doesn’t know how to breathe on your own…..I get this reaction more times then you’d think possible though so no hurt feelings here Ms. Laundry Lady….see you next Wed?

Bonus Tip: If you want to look like you know what you’re doing, don’t show up with a bag full of quarters and spend 30min trying to find the slot they go in….Laundromats have upgraded to money cards now…you’re welcome 😉

If you must visit a laundromat, don’t fret too much though. After the first time you’re pretty much a Pro. Seriously that’s kinda the theme here. It might be weird or scary the first time you do something in the city, but once you do it once, the mystery is gone and it can be done again and again with zero bumps in the road…or so I hope…Thus far I’ve survived the Trains and now the laundromat…

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What aspect of city life should I write about next?

What about your tips for the laundromat?

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