#SomethingBarros; Destination Wedding

Can we talk about the Bachelor first?

I mean I know I’m 2 days late but I just watched it last night and want to go on record that I thought it was pretty obvious that Lauren B was gonna win from the start. Also I think I’m the only person who isn’t stoked for JoJo to be the Bachelorette. Andi 2.0 anyone?

But who cares what I think. I hardly ever watch the Bachelorette anyway. Call me sexist…..Well actually don’t….

But on to more exciting news!

You guys…….

We have officially booked our wedding venue……

I am officially getting married…..

This just got infinitely more real……..

Destination Wedding

P.S. if you read my post yesterday you know that putting your hand in a picture instantly makes you successful. Or something like that….

Anyway, did anyone else freak out slightly after paying that deposit on their venue?

It can’t just be me. As someone who doesn’t spend money unless it’s life-threatening or absolutely necessary (yarn doesn’t count!), the actual act of paying a few thousand for a venue can really mess with your head. Well the deposit obviously wasn’t a few thousand but still.

I haven’t even thrown down for a new phone upgrade in three years so you know I’m not lying about my tight fists!

But, it’s done. We have our venue which means we have our date. What’s even the etiquette on disclosing your wedding date? Am I supposed to wait until I send out save the dates? Can I tell everyone before that?

Speaking of save the dates, do you send those to people that won’t be getting an invitation?

Wedding stuff is hard….

Back on topic though. Our venue. Technically you could say we’re having a destination wedding. It’ll be in North Carolina and in case you didn’t know I currently reside in Massachusetts. Why did I decide to have our wedding over 800 miles from where we live you ask? Good question, glad you asked.

It goes a little something like this.

One summer in 2011, a boy and girl met in the mountains of NC. Said boy and girl fell in love with each other and said mountains. Boy and girl get engaged and get frustrated with all the $$$ wedding venues in New England. Frustrated boy and girl start talking about eloping. Boy suggests a small wedding with only family and close friends in the very mountains they fell in love in. Girl is super impressed with boy’s level of insight put into wedding planning and loves him even more. The End.

Well not really the end because we haven’t actually gotten married yet. That’s still to come.

Now that we have a venue and date I can actually start looking into other vendors and whatnot. Doing it from afar will be interesting but that’ll be a post for another day.

What I’m excited about next is wedding dress shopping next month with my Mom and Bridesmaids down in Charlotte! This weekend trip is much needed.

So look forward to many more wedding posts now that I actually have a wedding to plan for!

Did you have a destination wedding? Care to tell me I’m not the only one who freaked out at the cost of things?

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How to Make Friends in Your 20’s

I have such a fun post for y’all today!

Remember Jess? You know, my uber cool friend who somehow still likes me despite my homebody grandma personality? She also wrote here before about Treating Your Self, which if you’re not doing already you need to start Immediately!

Also to answer the wedding questions, no we don’t have a date (but possibly our venue so it’s tbd very soon, eek!) also no I haven’t looked at dresses or caterers or wedding favors or anything else you want to ask me about. Wedding planning is awesome and fun but choosing is hard. First world problems yo….

Anyway, without further ado, take it away Jess!

How to make friends in 20s

Hey Everyone!
It’s been a while since I have written for Kelsey, and to be honest, she asked me to do this in August but I’m such a procrastinator that I didn’t get it done…hence the reason I will never be a real blogger. But anyways, since you’ve last heard from me (a year ago) I have gone from traveling job that had me hopping place to place, to permanent job at an amazing hospital in Seattle, WA. I could not be happier with my decision to land in this city, even with it being so far away from my New England home. Which is what brings us to today’s topic: tips for making new friends in your 20s and beyond.  This can be a hard thing to do, but it is possible, and hopefully this will help!

Disclaimer: I am an extrovert, and kind of pride myself on bringing introverts out of their shells when I can. So if you are an extrovert, these will be tips on how to work it, and for all you introverts, hopefully this will help you feel more comfortable out of your shell.

Focus on your interests

By the time you are 24, most people know what things they are interested in whether it be fitness, reading, outdoor adventures, board games, computer games, dancing, and general debauchery. You at least have an idea of what makes you happy and like to do. And if you like it, I can guarantee that there is someone else out there who likes those things too.  So do your research online, talk about the things you like to do with coworkers, if you see someone doing something you like, go talk to them (if they give you a weird look, who cares, you are just being friendly) Also, I highly recommend the website meetup.com for groups that get together to do said interests.

Say yes

This is my number one go to rule. It’s the most proven (personally at least) way to meet cool people and form amazing friendships. If you get an invitation that sounds interesting, just say yes. Whether it be an invite to a party full of people you may not know, out to a drink with someone you’ve only had a few conversations with before, or for a walk on a nice day (or in the rain too!) just say yes.
Simple right? ( the answer is YES!)

Be yourself

How do you expect to make authentic friendships if you aren’t being your authentic self? This is also a simple one.

Get out there!

Go! Out of your house! Grab someone and go somewhere, or go by yourself. Sit at the bar, eavesdrop and butt into interesting conversations (you know you are listening anyways). Go for a walk or run and stop to pet someone’s dog, social interaction is important. Even if these random encounters don’t go anywhere, they will get you more comfortable with talking to people, I’m looking at you introverts! Even if it’s out of your comfort zone, set a goal for even 1 time a week to get out of the house and do something social.

Use Connections

A friend of a friend could be your next BFF and you just don’t even know it yet. If there’s someone who you think you would hit it off with, don’t be afraid to use you connections, personal or digital, to reach out. I mean come on, I know you are Facebook and Instagram stalking them anyways.

Routine

Did you make a new friend that you want to make sure sticks around? Make dates, see each other, plan things, and then use each other to make even more awesome friends!

Give Zero Craps

Not to be rude here, which I am also not saying you should be, but seriously, the less you stress about what you are doing, or what you look like or are perceived as to other people, the easier it will be to complete any of the other steps. Know that you as you are right now, is an Awesome person, and go share that with the world. If you meet someone and they don’t see it, then it’s their loss.

So those are the general rules, I have been using these a lot recently, and have formed an amazing variety and strong groups of friends in Seattle, in just 7 months. So take the plunge, get yourself out there, and surround yourself with people as amazing as you!

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Confessions and Such

Hello Friends….

I’m not sure if these are confessions or just random thoughts coming out of my brain…..

Either way, I’m publishing them on the internet so I’m sure there’s a statement about my social well-being in here somewhere….

small plug, scarf by Me.

>> Starting off, I have to be honest…..That picture is from last year when I visited JB in Boston for New Years. Winter so far this year has been 63 degrees and sunny so I’m not quite sure if I brought my Southern warm with me, or Mother Nature is about to have the biggest laugh on us all come January….

>> In case anyone was wondering, I look pretty much just like that picture still, except my hair is about 2 inches longer. Confession I haven’t had a haircut since then…I’m really good at hair maintenance………

>>I’m gonna complain one more time about not having a computer…My laptop’s still broken and I’m still broke so no replacement has been determined as of now. And by complain only one more time I mean every time I publish a post for the next year until I get a new laptop. And by I’m broke I really mean, too stingy to buy a new one when I’d rather have a savings account and pay off my student loans….Oh and also my car is now half way on blocks so there’s that fun expense….Being an adult is awesome….

>> I’ve published literally ONE post in December so far…..It’s a good thing I’m not all caught up in that stat counting thing….silently weeps on the inside…….

>> Does anyone else, about once a month get a little moody and question every decision they’ve ever made in their entire life and suddenly envision their life going off the rails and ending up in a van down by the river? Probably just me. My life is so hard.

>> Don’t take it personally if I haven’t responded to your comment in about 2 weeks….I haven’t responded to anyone’s comments for two weeks. So at least I’m not showing favoritism ya know.

>> I’ve finished all my Christmas shopping and therefore lost all purpose in life for the next two weeks. I suppose I could focus on wrapping said gifts, but I’m flying most of them home to TN and they don’t allow you to fly wrapped gifts. Like once year in college in Utah, I tried flying home with wrapped gifts in my carry-on and despite the extremely powerful x-ray machine they use to find guns, drugs, and other illegal things, somehow my Dollar Tree Dora the Explorer wrapping paper duped them….The security guy made me stand there and unwrap Every. Single. One…..

>> I typed this all in about 30 minutes on my ipad, before I had to run around like a crazy person getting ready for work this morning. Good thing I’m so good at girl things like putting on mascara and remembering to do both eyes before leaving the apartment……

So that’s basically it. Confessions or just rando statements. I’m just not sure. Make them what you will. The only thing I ask of you is to be nice to me during my involuntary hiatus and still be my friend when I’m back

K thanks.

Oh and Happy Holidays and all that

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My Favorite Hashtag

Y’all….

As I was actually posting every day during my October Instagram Challenge last month, I came across my favorite hashtag…..

P.S. I also found out today when I looked that people are still using the #blondetober hashtag which I’m not sure is a compliment or they’re making fun of me? Whatevs, it’s fun to see everyones photos either way lol.

So, it wasn’t until I was posting every day of October (I’ve since backed off a bit, oops) that I realized just how big a mess my life really is by “world” standards. If a hashtag described my life, it’s this one….

#AdultingSoHard

And I mean it in the sense that it’s not true at all……

Read it as if it’s dripping with sarcasm…..big, fat drops of sarcasm…..

Favorite Hashtag

Let me explain…..

I’ve already written about Adult things I don’t understand and y’all assured me that at 26 I’ve got many, many years of not understanding ahead…..  #coolbeans

I also asked a few questions to make sure I wasn’t doing this whole thing wrong. Some said I wasn’t…others said I was… #OhWell

And can we talk about the fact that I like to use hashtags in daily conversation? I should reiterate that I’m 26, not 16…. #sorrynotsorry

Seriously, if it makes me laugh, I’m going to say it even in the middle of a staff meeting….. Well that one may have been one of those “time and place” kinda situations…..but it didn’t stop me….

So back to my favorite Hashtag.

#AdultingSoHard

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It applies to most situations in my life.

>> Like when I wore visible Hello Kitty tattoos to work for weeks on end….

>> Or that time that some Parents decided that I was old enough to teach their kids soccer…Did I mention that I’ve never played soccer before??

>> Or when I literally took 20 photos of the title photo in a store….

>> Have I mentioned my constant travel companion is a teddy bear? #noshame

>> How about on the weekends instead of showering I just toss a bandanna on my head?

Now, I do have a brand new adult job that requires office supplies and my own office with a lock and everything. I consider myself a pretty big deal now, but I always do that’s nothing new. But despite being the youngest one at the company (that’s FT anyway, we do have PT high schoolers that serve in the dining room) it’s my duty to step up my adulting game.

So that means….

….no more flower crowns ….at work anyway.

….no more PJ’s in the afternoons….except on casual Monday’s  (I don’t work on Mondays, duh)

….time to put away the dragon eggs….

….THIS face is not accetable for my work photo….

….my motto can no longer highlight fairy tale creatures…..

Ya get me?

I’m an adult now!

At least I’m trying……

I really am, I even told JB the other day that it’s finally time for us to grow up….kinda…mostly….a bit…..

So we’re gonna be real adults now and maybe actually kinda abit live an adult life…..

Here’s to trying anyway lol

What’s your favorite hashtag?

Will you join the #adultingsohard revolution with me?

Seriously, let’s all overtake the #adultingsohard feed!

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When You Feel Like Quitting

Hey Friends,

It’s Friday, which means we all just had amazing weeks and are looking forward to the weekend. Except me, I work Saturday’s now so I’ll still be at work while you’re relaxing. Although when you go back to work on Monday I’ll be sleepin in so there’s a big upside lol.

I actually got a special request from a fellow blogging friend to write this post. Either that means I have sage wisdom to bestow on my readers or I’ve been tagged a quitter. I’m not sure, but either way I can relate to the topic so it wasn’t a hard post to write.

This type of quitting is mostly directed towards blogging, but you can take the lessons and apply them to other aspects of your life as well.

Actually the example I give has nothing to do with blogging so it’s really easy to apply to life in general. I guess I do have sage wisdom!

When You Feel Like Quitting

I’ve actually never been called a quitter in my life. When I start something I always finish it, outcome not guaranteed, but I finish.

Let me give you an example of a time when I legitimately was going to quit something though. It was the summer of 2012 and I was working a job from Hell. It was a summer camp so I lived with the campers, working 6 days/week with one day off.

That wasn’t the bad part though, I’ve worked summer camps before, specifically the summer before where I met JB (heart emoji). This summer though, the management was completely incompetent. As in they set rules they didn’t even follow themselves, rewarded staff that didn’t show up for their shifts because they were dating (yes, the management was dating the staff and gave them special treatment), and punished those who actually watched the kids and essentially ran the camp while they slept in till noon every day.

Oh but once I was given a $5 giftcard to a frozen yogurt shop in town so it kinda made up for it I guess…..kidding…..

If you’re wondering if I tried to alert the higher-ups of the problems, I did. They didn’t believe me and basically called me a liar….so that was awesome……

It got so bad one day about 3/4 of the way through the summer that I literally broke down and decided I was going to quit.

I was so upset I was pacing around the quad (the camp was on a college campus) and fuming to JB (he worked that summer with me again. That’s love people) and he said something to me that stuck…

Don’t make an emotional decision that can have long-term consequences

Or something like that, it’s been 3 years give me a break.

Basically he meant don’t make a decision in the heat of the moment that can have a long-lasting impact on my life.

I ended up staying the rest of the summer despite the horrible working conditions because to me, the kids were worth it and I needed the monetary compensation for school.

So what does this have to do with blogging?

Well unless your blog is your main source of income then not much in the monetary realm, but if it’s something that engages you, inspires you, gets the fire in your soul coursing then it does.

See, I have a passion for helping other people and working with kids. For me, the end game of that summer job far out-weighed any incompetence the management could throw my way. I knew I was making a difference in those kids lives and I thrived on the day-to-day operations. It was also only a summer job……So the end was in sight.

So ask yourself, does blogging fulfill those things for you?

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Does blogging wake you up inside, inspire you to try new things, live your life in a better way, and satisfy your need to write and engage with others?

Or has it become a mental drain on you? Do you dread having to sit down and write a post? It is emotionally taxing to even think about promotion, SEO, and social media?

Does the end-game out-weigh the things that bugging you?

If the answer is no, then maybe “quitting” isn’t such a bad thing. Maybe it’s actually GOOD for you?

Quitting that summer camp would have elicited a whole slew of what-if’s, doubts, and regrets for me.

Similarly, quitting my blog would do the same thing. And trust me I’ve thought about it, even taken breaks from it, but I always came back.

And maybe that’s what you need to do.

Taking a break from blogging isn’t quitting.

Taking a break from blogging is sometimes necessary to see if it’s a passion or a drain. If it’s actually worth it for your well-being or pulling you down.

So what can we learn from this?

Quitting something isn’t always a bad thing. Quitting something that is emotionally and mentally draining is actually a good thing.

So take that break, step back and evaluate what’s important to you.

Maybe you’ll come back, maybe you won’t, but the important thing is you. Your motivations, your inspirations, your well-being mentally and emotionally.

So now tell me, have you ever felt like quitting something?

Did you quit? Did you not? What made you stick it out?

Let me know in the comments!

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Winter Office Wardrobe Must Haves

**This is a sponsored post, however all opinions are my own**

Have I told y’all I finally got a full time gig?

I didn’t think so. I’m actually on my way to CT for a training seminar today. So yay me, I’m the official new Wellness Program Coordinator at an Independent Living Facility here in Mass.

The name says it all. I schedule and coordinate all programming in the community including outings, performances, clubs, groups, fitness classes, challenges, etc, etc….

There’s a knitting group (love), book club (double love), and all activities are over by 4pm….um my life…..Can we all say perfect job for me together?

So with this transition from working in mostly a gym setting to an office every day means I need to step up my wardrobe game….like big time.

Winter Office Wardrobe

Scarf (now $7) / Dress (under $10) / Boots/ Leg warmers (only $7!)

No more tights and gym shoes for me. Nope! I gotta trade in my dri-fit for silk and whatever the heck else real clothes are made of. Cotton?

I’m not starting completely from zero though, I’m not that much of a kid still….just mostly.

So once I knew I got the job, I started looking for more office attire. Without that first paycheck though, that means I’m shopping on fumes. As in my budget is pretty tight right now, but I still wanted a “congrats on your first day of an adult job” outfit.

Here’s where Sammy Dress comes in.

They have a ton of cute clothes with very affordable prices. Best part is that customers actually upload photos of themselves wearing the clothes so you can see how it looks on a real person!

I don’t know about you, but seeing anything on a model is gonna make it look cute, but what about someone who looks like me?

Now I don’t know about you, but I’m a big fan of dresses. Especially in the Fall/Winter. Toss on a dress over a pair of leggings, add boots and viola! Perfect and cute office attire.

Of course being the youngest person at work by 50 years doesn’t set the bar too high….

Anyway…..

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Since it’s winter, a scarf is another must-have. It’s cold outside and sometimes warm in the office which means scarves are great layering pieces! And who doesn’t love scarves? I’m an addict. Some girls collect shoes or bags, I collect scarves like it’s my j.o.b. I also make a lot of scarves (high five for the knitters of the world!) so I have a constant supply to satisfy my need.

But now how do we make this super adorable outfit look professional and not just cute? Put a blazer on it!

At least that’s what I do. Check out a few of their blazers here.

I have yet to wear my brand new blazer to work yet, but I’ll let you know how it goes over in my office of two.

So those are my favorite office picks, now I wanna hear yours!

What is your favorite office attire?

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Month in Review: September

Is it bad that I just posted two monthly reviews in a row?

Oh well.

With all the new readers I’ve gained this month (hello!) I thought I do a little month in review. Not because you feel like you’re missin out, but because this is what bigger bloggers do and although I’ll never be one of those, I thought it’d be a nice review for me to see what September has brought.

Month in review

-I kicked off the month detailing all the things I still don’t understand as an Adult….26, why so confusing?

-I wallowed in self-pity for a bit about not having a full-time job yet. Y’all were amazingly supportive though so I quickly bounced back 🙂

-We all learned a thing of two about Google Analytics.

-I grew the balls to post my very first vlog.

-I also re-did my entire website diy style. Again, y’all were super supportive and emailed me about everything I’d done wrong. Hopefully it’s all bueno now 😀

-We compared our online and in real life selves. I think we can all agree that I’m the same basic chic here and there.

-I for some reason thought I was qualified to create an Instagram challenge for October. Not sure what possessed me but please join me. #pleaseandthankyou

-I shared 5 of my fave ladies. Y’all know I’m all about supporting others.

-I linked up with Allyson for what’s In and Out this Fall. (Hint, comparison is out!)

-Finally I recapped the books I’ve read in September. I stepped my reading game up and I’m back on track for hitting my 100 book goal for 2015.

Also don’t forget The Secret Blogger Club is coming back as a weekly linkup every Thursday (that’s tomorrow people)

What have you accomplished this month?

What are your goals for October?

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